There’s nothing more frustrating than being a bystander in your own life. You see yourself going through tough times, but you don’t feel like you’re the one in control. It’s as if your life is a movie. You don’t know how it will end. It has its twists and turns, but in the end, you’re just a viewer.
It shouldn’t be that way, though. It’s your life, so take control of it.
Live in the Moment
You’re too busy thinking about what you have, what you want to have, and what you can’t have. As your mind thinks about these things, you let time just pass you by. The present becomes just the passing of time and before you know it, it’s time to sleep. Tomorrow, it’s the same thing. You do not feel like you are accomplishing anything because you are not doing something that adds to your sense of self. When you’re simply in the business of owning things and you work just to have money to spend in temporary happiness, you will never be truly fulfilled.
The solution is simple, but it will require that you shift your focus. Instead of looking too far ahead and longing for the unattainable, live in the now. Go ahead and purchase that Mercedes Sprinter for sale and leave Idaho for a while. You’ll still have your home to come back to, but some time away from your boring routine will do you some good.
Let Work be Just Work
It is interesting to think about how employees, who have spent a lot on completing their college education, now use their job as a defense mechanism. They work hard, but now they say they are unapologetic about it. They say they love their job, and it becomes their whole life. The drawback here is that the other aspects of your life suffer.
Everyone has the same 24 hours per day. If you use most of your time to work, you’re cutting into the time you have for sleep, socializing, and spending time with your loved ones. This makes you lonelier and the role of work in your life magnifies. That might not seem like a bad thing, but your job cannot give you the fulfillment that connecting with another human being will.
It is not ideal to live a life with barely anything going on in it. However, it is also not good to overfill your plate. If you are working a full-time job, evaluate whether you have time for a second job or a part-time job before you agree to take them on. You may feel that you are missing out, and there is the lure of earning more money. Still, no amount of money will give back lost time. Learn to say no if it means getting better sleep, managing stress better, and being healthier. Learn to say no if your friends are bad influences. Definitely say no if you are not comfortable with what you are expected to do.
Instead of just watching your life pass you by, be an active participant in it. Do what you love and leave enough time to enjoy what you worked hard for.